TV star Jameela Jamil reveals she was date raped at 22 – and insists saying nothing and ‘begrudgingly accepting’ to have sex are NOT the same as consent

TV star Jameela Jamil reveals she was date raped at 22 - and insists saying nothing and 'begrudgingly accepting' to have sex are NOT the same as consent

 Jameela Jamil:Actress Jameela Jamil has revealed she was date raped at the age of 22.

Jameela, who stars in hit Netflix series The Good Place, told how she was sexually assaulted 10 years ago when she went home with someone she ‘didn’t know well enough’.

She said: ‘I couldn’t predict what their behaviour was going to be like behind closed doors and I didn’t have the words, or feel I had the right, to stop what was happening.’

The TV star, 32, discusses the incident in an interview with The Times ahead of her new BBC Radio 4 documentary, The New Age of Consent, which starts tonight.

In it she opens up about her own personal experience and blasts the common and dangerous misconceptions around consent that need to be eliminated.

Mmm, OK,” or saying nothing isn’t enough,’ she explained.

‘Giving in, or begrudgingly agreeing should not be what you are looking for in a lover. That’s a clear amber to red light that you need to stop what you are doing.’

Jameela, who found fame as a BBC presenter before moving to Los Angeles, revealed her own ‘freeze reaction’ was mistaken for consent during the 2008 attack.

The experience led the actress to reflect on the dangers of going home with a relative stranger. She said she took comfort in knowing that she would never do that again.

It didn’t make me feel that I was victim-shaming myself. I felt empowered to know that there were things I could do to make that much less likely to happen again.’

Jameela wrote a blog post on consent in January in the wake of allegations against US comedian Aziz Ansari. The actress wrote how any sexual partner needs to be ‘not just willing, but damn well enthusiastic’.

She continued: ‘Especially, in my opinion, if that person is the one to be penetrated. You want to enter them.

‘You best ensure you are a welcome guest, not someone who just begged, pressured, guilt-tripped or harassed their way inside.’

In July the star slammed actor Henry Cavill after he told GQ Australia that he was scared to flirt with women for fear of being ‘called a rapist or something’.

 Jameela tweeted: ‘If you don’t want to be called a rapist, then when you approach a woman… just don’t rape her… Someone please direct Henry Cavill to the nearest bin please #clown.’

The star hopes the two-part BBC Radio 4 documentary will help encourage young listeners to be ‘very careful’ and to ‘follow their instincts’.

The programme also hears stories from survivors – both men and women – heterosexual speakers and those from the LGBTQ+ community.

She asks why there appears sometimes to be a generational divide among women on this issue and what conversations need to be had to form a definition of consent that all parties can understand and agree on.

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